Big Kid Disneyland Trip

Last night after school was out we took the kids and two other families from the boys new school to Disneyland. We all have season passes so we thought it would be a lot of fun for the kids to hang out outside of school. We feel so blessed that the boys already have a great group of friends at the private school-- such a blessing. So, this Disney trip was geared for the older kids.

While the older kids were on a ride we waited in line to see Snow White. Right before we got up to her, she was replaced with Dopey. Mia was kind of sad but it was not that big of a deal.

So we got a Dopey picture. Mia didn't know what to think of Dopey at first but right when we were walking away from him she then decided she liked him and started smiling and reaching for him.

While we waited

I took a few pictures

of the little twerp

Chillin on the light pole

At that point I took the older kids and Mia went with the other moms and the younger kids to go on little rides and us older kids got to go on the big rides.

The boys being their boyish selves in front of Snow Whites house

On Roaring Rapids at California Adventure

On the ride that shoots you straight into the air

The boys loved this ride

This boy is Owens great friend. They live close and we carpool with their family. Owen finally has a good friend that is his age. He has always had friends but they are always older because of Ethan so I am just pleased as can be that he now has a great pal that is his age.

I found some old photos

I happen to be on an old computer today and saw a few pictures I had played with trying to learn how to work my old camera. The date on this was August 20, 2007, so Mia would have been home almost 3 months and would have been almost 9 months. She just looked so young and so cute I just had to post.

Little drooler

So darn cute. I love looking at old pictures to see how much she has grown!!!

A tough thing to do

*Update-- We met today and it went well. The mom, girls, moms parents, moms sister, dads parents and his siblings were all there. We had the principal, one teacher, myself and one of the pastors at the church. At first the girls seemed confused by why we were all gathering but they were just chipper little sweet things. As we were walking to the alter room, the 3rd grader looked at me and said, "don't I have a close and big family-- I'm so lucky!" This was before she heard the news and I replied that yes she was lucky that God had given her such a wonderful family. We then went into the room and the mom sat in front of them and told the girls that their dad was gone and that they would not see him again but he was in their hearts. Both girls just looked at their mom like they had no idea what she was saying and for the remainder of the time the girls were pretty much clueless because mom never said the DIED or DEAD words. As time went on when we were talking about supporting the family the older one seemed to start to catch on and started to cry a bit. The kinder girl was clueless. We prayed and spoke for about 40 minutes and I think we were able to provide them with a lot of support and options. The pastor that was there had lost his daughter 6 years ago so he was able to provide a lot of insight and was able to give info about kids grief camps and other supports. Overall, the adults felt very supported and I was happy about that but I was worried that the girls still did not understand. Before I left, the pastor and I pulled the mom aside and told her that the girls did not understand and that she needed to help them understand. The mom agreed to say the DIED word to the girls and we left them alone. About a half hour later I saw the family and I asked mom about the rest of their time and she said she told them that their dad had died and that he was in heaven and she said the girls immediately started crying and at that point understood. The little one asked if he was really dead and if he would come back and they said no but we would see him in heaven. The girls were upset but seemed to be doing OK. I saw them leave after I spoke with mom and the girls ran up to me and gave me a hug and said goodbye. Overall, what needed to be done was done and the girls now know so they can begin to prepare for the funeral on Saturday. I really feel like the school and church will be a strong support to the family and the family seemed to be moved by outpouring of support. Thanks so much to all of you for your support and prayers. It was felt and it went as well as this could go. Thanks again!!

There is a family at the boys new school that the dad killed himself last Monday. The mom has yet to tell the two girls (kinder and 3rd grades). I have had many families approach me to tell me about this family and the mom called me this evening. We has a long conversation and she explained the situation and that she has just not been able to bring herself to tell her girls. I explained that I am greatly concerned because so many in the school are aware of the death (not the circumstances but just that he died) that I worry the girls will find out from other kids. She agreed and is keeping them home tomorrow and then wants to meet up at the church/school tomorrow to tell them. She is going to have many of the immediate family members there but requested that I be there as well as a few others from the school- people the girls can talk to when they need to talk. I agreed and am making the arrangements.

I am just having a hard time with this. I want to be strong for the girls and the family and be a support to them but I worry I am just going to lose it. These are beautiful little girls with a mixed Asian decent and every time I look at them (especially the tiny little Kindergartner) I see Mia. I need to be strong and hold it together but I am going to majorly need prayer to make that happen. Please pray for the family and pray for these girls. Pray for all the "extra" people like myself that are going to be there to be a support to the family and not a deterrent. I so want to help and know I can but I need to hold it together in order to do so. The funeral is Friday and the mom and I are going to get together early next week to look into individual counseling for the girls and then hopefully for mom as well. I know we can help this family and I am thankful to be a part of this so that the girls can be supported while at school-- I just need wisdom on how to best help.

Thanks in advance for all your thoughts and prayers-- this is just a tough one.

Friday Night Pizza Night

Friday nights have officially become "Pizza Nights" around our home. Kevin changed his work schedule so that he could be home by 5pm each night in order to help out and do all the cooking. For me, I enjoy cooking but paired with homework and all the craziness, I don't enjoy it every night. Kevin on the other hand totally loves to cook and thinks of it kind of like therapy. Kevin cooked each night this week and in an effort to spend less money, we are making Friday nights pizza and movie nights (homemade pizza- before we would have eaten out and gone to a movie and spent way too much $.) So far so good with the whole Kevin cooking thing and the things seem to be going smoothly with the whole back to school thing.

Didn't have the flash on for this picture but here they are rolling out the dough.

Flash on-- don't like the color but all the kids pitched in and had a great time doing so-- even though Owen is not smiling-- he loved it too.

See!! Here is my little Happy man!

Mia and Owen checking on the progress of our first pizza. The first pizza was sausage and pepperoni and the second pizza was a deep dish (because we only have one round pan) BBQ chicken pizza with red onion, cilantro, chicken and BBQ sauce.

Mia on the floor

Little poser-- she was so cute- she said "mommy lay on the ground with me and take my picture"

Cutie

So officially I really love Kevin cooking. This week we have enjoyed items like home made vechemile pasta with cauliflower and flat iron steaks with some yummy sauce and kind of like a ratatouille and the most amazing beer can chicken steamed on the BBQ with a corn, cabbage and bacon warm salad. Everything has been amazing and I love that Kevin loves to cook-- it really is like therapy for him and a relief for me.

9/9/09 The First Day of School- Upland Christian Academy

Today was the boys first day of school at their new school home, Upland Christian Academy!! It was a wonderful morning that started with me arriving at the school at 7am to blow up balloons for the balloon release and then around 7:45am all the families began to arrive and at 8am the praise and worship time began. It was so amazing to be singing praise songs in the court yard of our kids new school with fellow believers surrounding us. It was so special that I actually teared up a bit. This is something Kevin and I have wanted for our kids for a long time but this year was the year all things came together. It was just an amazing time.

Arriving in the courtyard.

Ethan and Mia walking in.

Mommy and her amazing kids! You can kind of see the hair cuts. The school has a hair cut rule so we had to cut both the boys but Ethan's was much more drastic as he had like 4 inches cut off. I think he looks cute-- both boys do!



In the court yard

Mia wanted to stay and go to school too. They actually will have a preschool eventually (through the church) and I would love to enroll her as soon as it is up and running.

y Mia and Owen. The elementary kids wear uniforms (Thank you Lord) but the junior high and high school wear what they want but there is still a strict dress code (no skulls etc.)

And our happy family!!! The boys were so excited and I was sooooo ready for them to start school (since all the neighborhood kids have been in school since August 10 and the boys have been going crazy at home)

My handsome 4th grader!!

My handsome 6th grader!!!

A view from the 2nd floor

Pastor Diego praying for the school! It was so wonderful to pray with this group -- amazing!

Getting ready for the balloon release

And the release

So beautiful

My dorky boys

Owen in his class

I love his teacher Ms. Bronner. She is great and Owen's response at the end of the day was "she is really strict but really fun"- perfect for Owen!

Owen and Kevin saying goodbye

Overall, it was a great morning and I am so happy we chose to place the boys at UCA. It is such a wonderful family and we feel blessed to now be a part of it. I also am so thankful I get to be the school psych at UCA and be able to work there one day a week.

Labor Day Weekend

This weekend was relaxing and kind of disjointed. Kevin had a DUI checkpoint Friday night and then had to work a shift (not his normal shift) on Sunday so our weekend was kind of broken up so we played it safe and went up to my parents cabin at Lake Arrowhead. The kids and I went up Friday night and then Saturday we went to another lake up there called Lake Gregory which is a fun lake with a water slide and other rental stuff. The kids had a blast. Kevin came up and met us at the lake and then Kevin and my brother Brad headed out to shop for their awesome dinner they prepared that night. It was amazing and I so ate too much but whenever Brad and Kevin cook, you always eat too much. Kev went home that night and then the kids and I came home later Sunday afternoon. Today we got things ready for school as the boys start school this week and then had Kevin's family all over for dinner in the evening. Nice weekend.

The kids and Brad on the board thing we rented.

Ethan- you can kind of see his hair cut but not too well. Ill get better ones soon.

Mia loved playing in the sand and refused to take off her floaty thing-- it was strange but she insisted on having it on all day.

The boys paddling out.

All the boys on the paddle boat. They loved this and road it for a long time.

After we got back the girls bathed and my mom blew dried all their hair.

The girls loved it!!!




Mia and I took a quick trip to pick up sticks today and Mia saw the little Buddah statue thing and was totally interested so I took a couple pics.

Boys start school and we are really busy this week but I will post back to school pics soon. Have a great week!!!

Good/ Crazy Day!!!

Today was an interesting day. This morning at 8am I got the opportunity to present to the staff at my boys new private school (Upland Christian Academy) our new special ed like program. Most of the k-12 staff had heard little things about the program but did not really know or understand it. There had been some grumbling among some teachers mostly because they didn't understand what we were doing. But, after I presented to the teachers I was enthused that they seemed open and asked good questions. I then met with Owen's 4th grade teacher about Owen and what he needs in order to be successful and I was just thrilled about her teaching style as I think it will work well for Owen. I then had about 1 hour to get over to Target to buy all the boys school supplies and after $140 and still needing to buy the boys new bibles, I headed back to the school for our first IEP like meeting. The parents were running late so I had some time to speak with all his high school teachers and the principal and it went really good. All of the teachers were totally interested in working with this kid and were totally willing to make the accommodations necessary. It was just so great to see the teachers being so willing to work this program in order to help these kids. Once the parents arrived the meeting continued to go well and we all went away feeling GREAT!!!! I'm just really happy this program is going to work and that we have buy in from the teachers. That means tons because private schools are not usually willing to work with kids who struggle so this is awesome!

The crazy part is one of my court cases was going to trial tomorrow and was cancelled 2 days ago so it was put on the back burner. I got a call from the dad today and he informed me we were still going to court TOMORROW. So I called the attorney I am working for on this case and they decided that they were not going to trial but were attempting to settle so they were going to go ahead and meet and if it goes to trial then I will be called then. BUT, they need my report by tomorrow morning which I had not even begun since it was on the back burner. So, I got home from my busy day and had to sit down and immediately start my report which after 6 hours I just finished. I have to still fax it over but at least it is done.

So, busy day but a good day. Tomorrow is Owen's orientation where he gets to meet his teacher and then on Tuesday Ethan has his orientation for junior high and then on Wednesday, the boys officially start their new school. I'm really excited about this and the boys are as well. Ethan said to me at dinner tonight "mom, I like that you are really involved in my school. I wouldn't want to be a kid whose parents just drop them off and no one knows them." I thought that was sweet and I am so happy to be involved. I always have been involved in the kids school but when Mia came home from China it became really difficult because the boys school had just implemented a no sibling policy and I would have to get someone to watch Mia every time I went to work in one of their classes. With the whole bonding thing that was not possible so the involvement diminished. I'm just so thankful that I am able to now not only volunteer but help the school with my abilities. Just real happy about this.

Anyway, hope all is well. I will post hair cut pics soon. The boys look so cute!

Christy :)

The Birthday That Never Ends!!!!

It seemed as if we celebrated Ethan's birthday like 4 times but this was the final family celebration at our house on Sunday night. It was just family and it was really low key.

Owen arranged and lit all the candles and had to carry the cake out. A little freaked with the huge torch but he did fine.

Checking out the cake

Leading the wonderful rendition of Happy Birthday

And blowing!!

On another note, tomorrow is hair cutting day for the boys-- yaaaaaaaa!!! There is a dress and hair code at the boys school next year so I will post tomorrow night the afters-- I cant wait to see it short again.

I got a wild hair to clean my closet today and have a huge mound of clothes to give away. My Sunday school class has dibs and then its going to charity. Anyway, busy busy busy but all is well!